The stories we tell

Photo by Martin Malina, 4 June 2026 at Shaw Pond in the Ottawa Valley

At the end of something, we continue to tell stories. We like to tell stories. I appreciate hearing and reading through your emails and cards the memories that stand out for you in these last 14 years that I have been your pastor. Precious memories. Recalling these memories can leave us feeling grateful, yet sad as well.

There is one memory that stands out for me, kind of quirky (I bet no one wrote about or would mention this one!). It was a moment in a council meeting some years ago. And it is a funny memory, for me anyway. And maybe it sticks because council meetings generally tend to be heavy, especially when it comes to looking at the numbers. We tend to get anxious when the numbers are printed in red font, or have a minus sign in front of them.

So, this shout out for humour goes to Brian Wirth, who when he was on council some years ago decided to examine the cost effectiveness of the electric heaters in the sanctuary. I can’t remember the exact details. But I hope you get the gist.

He presented his findings in graph form. A graph has two axes, horizontal and vertical. If I recall correctly, the horizontal axis showed change over time. And the vertical showed the output either in electrical energy or monetary cost. You can imagine, then, a graph joins points on a curve going up and/or down, over time.

In this council meeting we were around long, narrow cafeteria style tables, sitting across from each other. As Brian explained his findings, he had the graph lying on the table facing him. The person sitting directly across from him was also looking down at the graph. They apparently listened to Brian’s report and then concluded, pointing at the graph:

“That’s a pretty high cost for running those heaters for just a couple of times a week.” Grunts of approval could be heard down the line.

Without missing a beat, Brian flipped his chart around, so it now faced the person across from him right side up. “There, is that better?” he said with a twinkle in his eye.

The person’s initial conclusion was based on their perspective, seeing the graph’s line upside down. From their perspective the graph line was arching high along the graph’s horizontal axis. Turned around, the line then skirted at the bottom of the scale, indicating a totally different story. “There, is that better?”

I laughed. Maybe another reason that memory sticks in my mind is because it illustrates how quickly the mood can shift depending on the stories we tell and how we tell them. And how easy it is to talk ourselves down, into a negative mental space where we don’t consider other facts, other legitimate ways of looking at the same problem.

We can tell ourselves, like the ancient Israelites did, that “everything the Lord has spoken we will do” (Exodus 19:8). We can tell ourselves that the “labourers are [always] too few” as the harvest always remains plentiful (Matthew 9:37). We can lock ourselves into beliefs that keep us behaving in ways that reflect only part of the story, the truth.

Because the biblical record shows that the Israelites did not always do everything the Lord commanded. That’s the truth. The proof is … well, read on after Exodus 19 to the end of the bible! The Israelites definitely did not always do what the Lord commanded.

And, yes, the labourers may have been few at times. But the historical record shows the church has existed, even thrived, through thick and thin for over two thousand years. Not many organizations have shown the resilience of the church. There are labourers, always have been, willing to work in Christ’s mission. That’s the truth, too.

The power of the story can impact how we feel and what we do. Many stories we tell ourselves only reinforce a belief that we are unlovable and incapable to do what God wants. “There’s never enough.” “We can’t do this.” “The sin is stronger than the good in us.”

But what is the evidence supporting those beliefs? Is it always true? Can we believe the opposite of such negative conclusions? Can we believe what Saint Paul writes so passionately in his letter to the Romans, that indeed, “God proves God’s love for us” (Romans 5:8) time and time again?

Just because there are times when we fail, it doesn’t mean we can’t succeed at other times. Just because there are times when there aren’t enough volunteers to do a particular job doesn’t mean there aren’t enough volunteers to do another kind of job. We don’t have to lock ourselves into one perspective for all time.

In the Gospel, Jesus links teaching and proclamation of the good news with curing diseases and healing every kind of sickness (Matthew 9:35; 10:1). Healing every kind of sickness is just as valid an expression of the church’s mission as teaching and proclamation. The mission of Christ is not just expressed in one specific form or way for all time. The Christian mission can be faithfully expressed in a variety of legitimate ways to show God’s love in the world.

I know during this time of saying goodbye, much of the discussion is about how Pastor Martin has impacted and influenced the life of Faith Lutheran. But it’s reciprocal. You have taught me some things as well.

I’d like to tell you one thing you have taught me is to use the gifts of analysis, inquiry, and investigation. You’ve taught me to do the research, the homework, seek out the facts, collect the data. You’ve reinforced for me the importance of supporting my opinions with facts. And to do that before coming to any conclusions. In responding to any issue, we do well to consider the evidence, for and against, any assertion we make.

This is also an important step in the healing of the mind, which in psychological problems reflects underlying beliefs or stories that may be partially true but don’t capture the whole picture. There are other facts, maybe even more relevant and just as powerful that have been missed, never before noticed nor considered. It is important first to observe, notice, and pay attention to the facts regarding any situation we face.

I think this gift you gave me inspired me to pursue continuing education in my own professional development that has led us to this day. So, thank you for your gift of valuing education and life-long learning. Thank you for supporting me, for letting me go to pursue continuing education.

Endings are beginnings and beginnings are endings. The moment we are born, we begin to die. That sounds depressing, I know. But it’s true. Our ending starts the moment we take our first breath. The moment we are born — yes our bodies begin to grow and develop. But as soon as our bodies begin to interact with our environment combined with our inherited genes, the seeds are sown that will eventually develop into pathology as well.

The opposite is also true. Each ending marks a new beginning. Something new is born the moment it ends: The story of resurrection after death.

So, I went to the beginning, to my first post in raspberryman.ca – my blog – in May of 2012, the month I started my work with you 14 years ago.

And wouldn’t you know, the title and theme of that first post was: “Have a little faith!” Reflecting on the name of this church – Faith Lutheran – I wrote there about the importance of taking a risk and forging forward in faith.

Something ends today, to be sure. I will no longer be your pastor nor function in the role of your pastor. I will no longer do funerals, make visits, do weddings or baptisms in this faith community and for members of Faith.

But what begins? What endures? In the grief process, we say that though something concrete ends, the relationship has not. Though there is something concrete that changes in the relationship, the relationship itself endures in different ways.

A significant break of time apart is necessary, now. A significant break of time apart is necessary, to help set the stage, and prepare the ground to build trust and integrity in the relationship with your new pastor.

But, they say, good friendships can endure the test of time. Who knows, where and how, far down the line, our paths may cross again?

Have a little faith, dear Faith Lutheran.

Amen.

All are called

Photo by Martin Malina, 5 June 2026 Jirina Sistek’s garden, Ottawa

Do you know why NHL hockey players traditionally let their facial hair grow out during the playoffs?

It is customary to see Stanley Cup finalists not trim nor groom their hair – mustaches and beards – during the so-called “second” season of the NHL. The further a team goes deep into the playoffs, especially now in June, the shaggier their heads and faces look!

It is a symbol of their commitment, they say. The shaggy beards represent a singular, grueling focus. Everything else besides their mission to win is not a priority. Surviving the two-month tournament requires immense physical grit. And the beards act as a badge of honor for that resilience.

Since I finished my practicum a couple of months ago, around the time the NHL playoffs were about to begin, I too, haven’t cut my hair. Mind you, there’s not a lot to begin with atop my head! But this is likely the longest I’ve let my hair grow in quite a while.

But I have started to focus on my new call, and lots of things are changing quickly. I feel the effects of maintaining a gruelling focus on the path ahead. Certain things that were once higher up on the to-do list get relegated to a lower place on the priority list – like a visit to the barber. Because what matters now is just the next step on this journey.

I want to begin and end my sermon with two different prayers from our Lutheran liturgy, framing my words today in the themes important to us at this time of transition in our lives as a church community.

Let us pray:

O God, you have called your servants to ventures of which we cannot see the ending, by paths as yet untrodden, through perils unknown. Give us faith to go out with good courage, not knowing where we go, but only that your hand is leading us and your love supporting us; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen. (Augsburg Fortress, 2008, p. 206).

Matthew was called to follow Jesus. Biblical translators have entitled this story as “The Call of Matthew” (Matthew 9:9-13). Indeed, we are called to ventures whose entire path is not yet clear. I don’t think Matthew knew, when he said, “Yes!” to follow Jesus, what exactly he was getting himself into.

The congregation here at Faith is stepping now onto an exciting new path whose ending is still not clear, as far as calling a new pastor – you don’t know who that will be. You will need to trust the process, and each step of the way, before the answer emerges. The focus is the next step.

When Simon, chair of council, spoke last week to you about the congregation needing to complete a mission profile, it struck me that calling a pastor is first about understanding the call of the congregation. When you indicate your priorities in mission, you are tapping on something important in your understanding of faith and church. And your call.

What is at stake in this process is not merely the call of one person, the pastor, and what gifts they might bring. But this experience in its fullness draws to light, and exposes the call of everyone in the congregation, the call of everyone to follow Christ.

At an installation service of a new pastor decades ago at St James Lutheran Church in Renfrew, I heard the then assistant to the bishop, the Rev. Guenter Dahle, preach a dandy sermon. He made it clear that everyone shared responsibility for the ministry of the congregation.

It wasn’t the ministry of the pastor they were called to support. It was the ministry they shared with the pastor. This call process is not about just pastors. Essentially, this is about identifying and celebrating the mission of the whole congregation.

Yes, we are on a journey, a pilgrimage that never ends. An experience that takes us only one proverbial step at a time. Of whose endings we don’t yet see, but just enough to be confident of the next step.

How can we be confident of the next step? Stanley Cup winning teams will admit that their winning ways can be attributed in part to ‘puck-luck’ – those bounces that go in their favour, referee decisions that were fortuitous, injuries are minimal. From that perspective, they say ‘the hockey gods’ were on their side.

Some are quick to add that good teams create their ‘puck-luck’. Even so, to win is not solely the result of hard work, physical stamina and dogged commitment. There is that intangible element that is hard to put your finger on to describe what accounts for a championship run. Some teams just get a good dose of grace at the right time.

Matthew knew he was not a popular and hardly a righteous man. The crowds vilified, as we do today, the ‘tax man’. He was definitely not a model of moral perfection and faithfulness. But Jesus is quick to clarify that he calls not the righteous into God’s family, but sinners. “I desire mercy …” Jesus emphasizes (Matthew 9:13).

You could say that God comes close to us not when we get it right, but especially when we get it wrong. Former bishop of the Episcopalian Church in the U. S., Michael Curry, reflects on the words of a mentor who supported him in his times of transition and possibility:

“We always see through a glass darkly, and that is what faith is about. I will live by the best I can discern today. Tomorrow I may find out I was wrong. [But] Since I do not live by being right, I am not destroyed by being wrong” (Curry, 2020, pp. 166-184).

If we don’t have to be perfect for Jesus to call us to the table of communion, if we don’t have to be morally righteous for us to receive the invitation of grace, mercy and love of God, if we don’t have to get it perfectly right before making a big decision, we can like Matthew say “yes!”, commit to the journey, trust the voice of Jesus calling in our hearts, “get up and follow him” (Matthew 9:9).

I love this quote from John Steinbeck’s book, East of Eden: “And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.” I believe we can be good people.

Welcoming a new member into Faith, as we do shortly, is an opportunity for us all to ponder the call of Christ in our hearts. We welcome Maeve using words from the affirmation of faith in the liturgy of confirmation. The church, after all, is not just the pastor. The church is the people.

Let us pray:

O God, full of compassion, we commit and commend ourselves to you, in whom we live and move and have our being. Be the goal of our pilgrimage, and our rest by the way. Give us refuge from the turmoil of worldly distractions beneath the shadow of your wings. Let our hearts, so often a sea of restless waves, find peace in you, O God; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen. (Augsburg Fortress, 2008, p. 363)

The Call of Matthew reminds me of a childhood song I first learned during a church service – in a congregation named after Matthew – St Matthew’s Lutheran Church in Conestogo Ontario, near Waterloo in Southern Ontario, the church in which I was confirmed:

The church is not a steeple. The church is not a building. The church is not a resting place. The church is the people. I am the church. You are the church. We are the church together. All who follow Jesus, all around the world. Yes, we’re the church together.

References:

Augsburg Fortress. (2008). Evangelical Lutheran worship: Pastoral care – occasional services, readings, prayers. Augsburg Fortress.

Curry M. B., & Grace, S. (2020). Love is the way: Holding on to hope in troubling times. Avery.